Based on the novel The Lost Child of Philomena Lee by Martin Sixsmith, Stephen Frears’ film adaptation, aptly titled Philomena, chronicles the story of an older woman who previously gave her baby up for adoption when she was forced to live in a convent. Judi Dench plays the titular character, who with the help of a journalist played by Steve Coogan, goes in search of her son, only to learn that he was a gay conservative politician who died of AIDS. The film was recently screened at TIFF to raucous applause. So here’s the trailer.
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This post is Not Safe For Work (NSFW).
As some of you know, I’m a butt man. After watching Dallas Buyers Club at TIFF a couple of weeks ago, I have a new appreciation for Matthew McConaughey.
Then I found these gifs from omgblog! and I’ve fallen even more in love with him. To be honest I’ve always found his sexy southern drawl alluring, but now the deal is sealed! What a butt!
Sexy straight men with a subtle gay vibe are always a treat to behold.
The video above is not safe for work (NSFW).
I’m sharing this video for a couple of reasons. The first is that it’s been circulated extensively on gay blogs with little mention to how utterly ridiculous and self-serving it is.
Yesterday I tweeted some articles about our obsession with achieving physical perfection. Women are often manipulated by companies and advertisers to consistently feel terrible about their bodies.
Well, the same can be said for gay men. One can’t flip through a queer-friendly magazine, or blog, without encountering visuals like the one you see above.
Bryan Hawn is a fitness model who regularly posts videos of himself scantily clothed, much to the envy and enticement of gay men everywhere.
Men are visual beasts, and they always want to see something that will satisfy their sexual impulses. The problem with Hawn, and this recent video of his, is that it makes no sense.
He’s talentlessly lip-synching to Miley Cyrus’ latest song, Wrecking Ball, while making sexually suggestive poses, which is an imitation of her recent music video that was directed by Terry Richardson, a man who has been accused several times of sexually exploiting young models.
I really can’t figure out what the point of Hawn’s parody is, other than to show off his fit physique. And I’m not even sure if this can be considered a parody. It’s not funny, it’s just a “Look at my body” sales pitch. He’s selling himself, possibly for free.
This is what gay men are told is sexy, and the narcissism on display here, and from many men in the community, is glorified in gay mediums everywhere.
What you don’t hear, is how utterly embarrassing it is to behave this way. How in love must one be with himself to have absolutely no sense of modesty or humility? I’m not advocating that people be ashamed of their bodies, only that the narrow parameters around what we consider attractive is indicative of how warped our culture is when it comes to the common depictions of beauty.
We’d consider Hawn’s video a parody if he were bald and fat, because these are two natural developments in the human body that we collectively abhor, and consider repugnant. No one can consider themselves attractive if they have a soft body, and are losing their hair, right? Just look at all the terrible comments about Britney Spears after her much panned VMA performance a few years ago, or how “ugly” everyone says Prince William is because he’s, SHOCKING, going bald! Oh, the humanity.
You will hear phrases like, “If you’ve got it, then flaunt it” or “If I had that body I’d be naked too.” All valid assertions, but in a community saturated with hyper-sexual norms, and the aforementioned limited standards on physical attractiveness, what does all of this say to young gay men who don’t look this way, and who don’t want to? When and where are they represented?
In addition to this point, older gay men are also devalued and unrepresented, and the only way that they can get the attention they desperately crave, is if they have a body like Bryan Hawn. And what if someone like Hawn — who looks like every other gay person photographed in every gay magazine, and cast in every gay-themed movie — isn’t attuned to my tastes? What if this is not attractive to me? My community is telling me that if I don’t think he’s ‘hot’ than I’m the one with the problem. My community is also not providing any alternatives. No one is questioning people who behave the way Hawn is in this video, instead they’re putting him on a pedestal and telling us to emulate him, no matter what it takes.
Unfortunately this is what I’m told all gay men aspire to look like, and if they don’t achieve it, they’re not considered attractive. There is only one look to obtain, and this is it. Imagine the self-loathing, and insecurity that a young gay man starts to feel when he simply can’t look this way. Or the fear that an older gay man must feel when our ageist culture says that he is no longer desirable because we prefer our flesh firm, and without blemish.
Maybe I’m being too harsh with this, but is it really any different than what young women are exposed to on a daily basis in magazines like Cosmo? I guess I’m reaching a point where I’m simply just tired of how normal this has become, and how attention hungry we are in the age of the Internet.
Perhaps it’s time to close this blog? I’m not sure how much more I’m willing to be a participant in this shallow world that is now so commonplace.
I’m going to add some links here that I shared on Twitter yesterday. I suggest you read them, and perhaps start feeling a little better about how normal different body types really are.
Dustin arrived at the Home Depot in Salt Lake City thinking he was there to help his roommate pick out some lighting for a party. When he was taken to the lumber aisle, what he found waiting for him was a mob of friends and family as his marriage proposal unfolded to the song, “Somebody Loves You” by Betty Who.
Spencer and Dustin would like to thank all of our amazing family and friends for their continued love and support!
Personally, this is the only reason to watch Lindsay Lohan’s new movie, The Canyons. I present to you Canadian actor Nolan Funk in a speedo. You’re very welcome.
Good news for Toronto’s independent music scene. Tegan and Sara have been shortlisted for the 8th annual Polaris Prize.
The Toronto Star reports:
Toronto acts were reasonably well represented on the 10-album short list by METZ’s self-titled debut for Sub Pop Records; husband-and-wife duo Whitehorse’s The Fate of the World Depends on This Kiss and Metric, which becomes the first act in Polaris history to be shortlisted three times with Synthetica.
Montreal, however, owns the list this year, probably because every band in Canada now wants to move there. American-born baritone saxophonist Stetson makes his second shortlist appearance with New History Warfare, Vol. 3: To See More Light; Edmonton-bred synth-pop duo Purity Ring turns up with Shrines and shape-shifting ex-Vancouverites Young Galaxy take a bow with Ultramarine. Godspeed You! Black Emperor’s Allelujah! Don’t Bend! Ascend!, meanwhile, holds it down in the name of native Montrealers.
Rounding out the Polaris contenders were Calgary-born twins (and two-time nominees) Tegan and Sara with the international hit Heartthrob; Cape Town-via-Nanaimo songstress Zaki Ibrahim with Every Opposite and Ottawa-based First Nations DJ crew A Tribe Called Red with Nation II Nation.
To make matters even better, singer/songwriter Kathleen Edwards and Vancouver rapper Shad will host this year’s Polaris gala, to be held in its new home, the Carlu, on Sept. 23. The winner will receive $30,000. Feist won the award last year for her album, Metals.
Good luck everyone!
One of the things I will never understand about Americans is their collective fear of big government. They want Uncle Sam to have the least amount of power possible, except of course, when it comes to your private life.
In that case they want the government to be able to legislate what you do in the privacy of your own bedroom, who you can and cannot marry, what you can and cannot do with your own body and on and on.
Yesterday I posted a video of Sarah Slamen, a Texas resident who, during public testimony, told her lawmakers exactly what she thought about their support of bill SB 1, which will force the closure of all but six abortion clinics throughout the state and make abortions illegal after 20 weeks.
During her public admonishment she was unceremoniously cut-off by her own senator and escorted from the premises. Yes, free speech is alive and well in a country that purports to uphold said right.
Jesus, people. Seriously. In 2013, governments are still making abortion illegal? Really? Is this what it comes down to?
Regardless of anyone’s view on abortion, it is not a morality issue. Making abortions illegal will not stop them from happening. Instead, they will be replaced with back-alley abortions that will put the life of the mother at risk.
Saying that abortion is akin to murder is ignoring the complexities of the decision. There are a myriad of reasons that a woman decides to end her pregnancy ranging from generational abject poverty, drug addiction, health concerns, paternal abandonment, the list goes on.
The idea that a government wants to control what a woman does to her own body, through legislation that is based on ignorance, misogyny and lies, is archaic.
Many anti-choice advocates have difficulty holding two opposing thoughts in their brain at the same time. They can’t see that one can be pro-life, yet believe that women have the right to safe abortion facilities to protect their health and well-being.
To abandon their health, to strip them of safety, by simplifying the argument by labelling them as sluts, irresponsible, and reckless is to ignore the intense reality of the situation, and to abscond all tolerance for their individual predicaments.
I lived in Argentina for a year, where abortion is illegal, and I have to say that I was appalled that many machismo Argentines, who promote the importance of sex, and the right to have it with many different partners, would then demand that a woman have a baby, with no means to support it.
Fifty per cent of Argentines live in poverty, the infrastructure is crumbling, yet the government is insisting that poor women give birth to poor children. I mean, it’s the most ridiculous argument I have ever heard in my life. It ignores the problem that poor people, who are the least educated, and have limited means to escape their poverty, also have the most children. How is the government able to support all of these unwanted children in a country where opportunity does not exist?
What I would love to hear more from anti-choice, and moral crusaders, is solutions to these very real issues. Instead of calling pro-choice advocates murderers, and killing abortion doctors, why don’t they focus on how they are going to assist these women, and support them to have their children, rather than isolating, and shaming them into having a child they can’t raise.
Rather than being so concerned with a child’s right to life, how about they support legislation that protects the family and encourages and supports an institution they claim to care so much about?
Social programs are essential to ensure that poor children have the right to better their chances to succeed, yet the American government refuses to financially support these organizations, because tax payers don’t want to pay 1% more. And I’m not even addressing their moral outrage at any charity that concerns itself with women’s reproductive rights.
Even with the separation of church and state, Americans still enact laws that are Biblically influenced, which does not represent the individuals in the country who are not religious, or are of a different religion.
This is how infectious religion is on morality. In many countries that are governed by Muslim law, a woman who commits a “heinous” act, like displaying too much skin, or not wearing her hijab properly, cannot be brought to justice if she is a virgin. It is then perfectly legal for law enforcement to rape her, and then charge her, and now because she is no longer a virgin, and not married, she can be executed.
Americans often look at these countries like they are somehow more superior, but their treatment of women is just as atrocious, only that the violence is replaced with the slow erosion of rights.
The fact that insurance companies will not cover contraception but will cover Viagra, is a clear example of how biased policy makers are towards women.
Sex education is illegal in Texas. Why? I mean how irrational is it to believe that informing children about their bodies is going to promote sexual promiscuity? I took mandatory sex education when I was growing up, and I’ve always been in long-term monogamous relationships. What’s so wrong about learning how babies are made, and the proper names for our genitals, or what puberty is?
The reason provided by Americans is that it’s up to the parents to speak to their children about sex, but they’re not doing it. Instead they’re allowing their children to watch hyper-sexualized television, and Internet porn, both represent women as sexual objects.
My friend was at a photo shoot yesterday, and she remarked that the photographer kept complimenting her about her physical appearance, which made her feel uncomfortable. Like a lot of men, he believes that women want to be objectified, and complimented on how they look, rather than how they feel or think. It immediately disempowered her, and she couldn’t help but wonder how he would feel if every comment she made about him revolved around how he looked.
That’s beside the point though. I guess what I’m trying to say by mentioning that is that there are real problems with how we socialize men, and women, and that’s an issue we should address, rather than forcing women to have children. A woman is not an incubator, and her uterus should not be the property of anyone else, but her.
The double standard that a man’s insurance provider will provide him the means to get an erection, but then not cover a woman’s right to protect herself from pregnancy is INSANE! Especially when most men, who refuse to wear condoms, and then learn that their one-night stand is now pregnant with their child, quickly bail, leaving the mother to raise the child on her own.
And then, if she can’t do it, if she doesn’t have the financial or emotional support, her government is telling her that she must now lay in the bed that she made.
Oh boy. America, yes the land of many contradictions. Big government is bad if you have to pay taxes, but not if they want to legislate how you live your life.
I’m just glad I live in Canada.
The mural outside of the NOW Magazine offices
I often hear Americans talk about individual freedom. Obviously to everyone outside of the United States, it’s clear that inequalities within the “land of the free” are rampant. Gays continue to struggle for equality. In fact, in certain states it’s still legal to fire someone because of their sexuality.
For me, it’s obvious that the definition of individual freedom to Americans means economic prosperity. The goal is financial success, and yet so many Americans are disenfranchised from any possibility of reaching their “full potential.” This is a direct result of hateful, bigoted laws, promoted by hateful, bigoted people.
What does being free mean to you? To me, it’s not about acquiring possessions. It’s not about appearances, or projecting an image to make my peers jealous. Rather, freedom is a state of mind. The ability to ask questions. To be free of material constraints that we erroneously believe define our identity.
To think free, is to reach self-awareness, so that in turn we can reach enlightenment. Being free is ensuring that everyone around is can enjoy the same privileges we all believe we’re entitled to. It means informing ourselves, and making knowledgeable choices that can positively impact not only people, but our planet. This includes animals, and the environment.
I encourage all of you to think free. And when you believe that a certain group is unequal to your own, I ask that you challenge your perceptions and raise the level of decency. Not just for you, but for everyone.
Think free. Indeed.
I’m So Excited! is a 2013 Spanish comedy written and directed by Pedro Almodóvar, who describes the film as “a light, very light comedy”. Looks funny.