Look at the pretty moon before you read my tirade. Okay, now go!
Ladies I implore you, for the love of GOD, please stop talking about the personal lives of other people. I mean, really, why the fuck do you even care about anyone else but yourself?
And while I’m at it, stop telling all of your friends personal, private and intimate details that involve your life partner, especially if you don’t have his or her explicit permission. The size of his penis, his sexual prowess and details about his hygiene are no one’s business – NO ONE’S!
If you’re having marital problems try solving them by actually speaking to the person whom it concerns, meaning, your husband.
We’ve come to think, more than any other decade in observance, that the private lives of our friends and even complete strangers are fair game in conversations.
I’ve witnessed hundreds of women tell me things about their friends and the relationships of their friends that’s left me dumbfounded that anyone could possibly believe that it’s my, or anyone else’s business to know such private information.
Ladies just because your girlfriend has confided in you about relationship problems she’s experiencing does not mean that the relationship is complete shit, or that she wants you to go ahead and blab it to everyone you know. That’s why she’s telling you — her confidant — so shut your fucking mouth!
I get it, you’re insecure. Possibly you’re comparing your relationship with other people’s relationships. Maybe you’re single and trying to justify this choice by highlighting all the ills you think you’ve observed from the myriad of relationships around you. Maybe you’re bored. Or perhaps you’re just a shitty person.
Whatever it is, none of it is cool.
“Oh my God they’re in an open relationship!” WHO CARES? How a couple decides to define their relationship is again no one’s business but their own!
“I think he’s cheating, I’m going to tell on him.” Ummm… NO! When did you decide that this was about you, or that you have all the information, or that somehow, this is your business!?
As you can see this is a blog rant. I’m getting sick and tired of hearing people decide that someone else’s life is their amusement park. Or that it’s their right to make irresponsible and damaging assumptions about someone’s life, or relationship, something that affects no one but the people who it actually concerns — the couple!
I’m over listening to people vilify individuals, or turn others into heroes based on rumour and gossip that they have no problem spreading around like it won’t actually affect the people it targets.
And the worst part is that it doesn’t matter how people reveal information about their private lives. Some try to find a confidant who betrays them, others don’t speak about anything specific, yet they’re still the victim of back talking.
Here is what I suggest: Get a life, or at least try to be happy with your own. As soon as you’re secure in the life that you’ve built for yourself you won’t be so concerned with tearing down the reputations of the people you call friends.
Also, venting is natural. Women, and men, often only speak publicly about their relationships when they’re having problems, which does not by definition mean that their relationship is on the rocks. In addition, your observations of other people and their relationships are just that, flawed observations. The couple may bicker but when they’re home alone, in bed together, they’re possibly the most affectionate and loving people to each other — so back the fuck off.
No I’m not talking completely from personal experience. But as I stood waiting for my coffee early this morning with only three hours of sleep I had to listen to a group of women irresponsibly gossip about a colleague who I’m sure they’ll greet with phony smiles when they see her at the office later.
Instead of gossiping about other people how about you try to inform yourself about all the shit that’s going on around the world right now, or take up a cause and try to positively impact the lives of people who need it.
And for all you early disclosures out there who blab about every minute detail of your private life, and even to those who reveal a little, here is a rule of thumb to follow: If the person you’re confiding in often gossips about her friends, it’s highly possible that she’s doing the same to you. Do not trust that person.